What are the ethical red flags I should watch out for?

Red flags cluster: guru dynamics ("only I can guide you"), sexual boundary blurring, financial pressure or love-bombing, secrecy about lineage or training, dismissiveness about medical safety, isolation from your outside relationships, and any framing that positions the facilitator as beyond critique. A healthy container encourages your discernment, welcomes questions, and makes it easy to leave. Trust your body — if something feels off before ceremony, it will feel worse after.