Trigger warning: This episode includes personal stories of childhood abuse and murder.
Download the free companion workbook for this episode here:Wounds That Still Control You
What if the person who hurt you is gone from your life, but still has access to your consciousness?
What if the event ended twenty years ago, but one memory can still pull you into anger, resentment, shame or hours of rumination?
And what if healing is not about endlessly revisiting the wound, but learning when the wound has already taught you what you came here to learn?
In this deeply personal episode, I explore the wounds that continue to control us after ayahuasca, and the difference between processing trauma and becoming possessed by the emotional pattern around it.
I share my own journey with my biological mother, childhood abuse, rage, grief, betrayal and the long road toward acceptance. I also explore something I began noticing while living at an ayahuasca retreat: when one old wound stopped dominating my mind, another story would often take its place.
Different person. Different situation. Same energetic signature.
This episode asks a different question from “How do I forgive?”
What still has power over my consciousness?
We explore how old wounds become maps for the way we interpret relationships, why attention can keep reinforcing the very emotional states we want to leave, how to recognize when you are back inside an old trauma trance, and why forgiveness should never be used to bypass anger, grief, truth or accountability.
I also share the forgiveness framework I now use in my own integration work:
Face what actually happened.
Find the meaning you created around it.
Feel the emotion beneath the story.
Accept the reality that cannot be changed.
Reclaim what still belongs to you.
Allow forgiveness to blossom when it is ready.
Let grace become the completion of what no longer needs to repeat.
For me, forgiveness is not the seed. It is the flower.
It does not mean saying the abuse was acceptable. It does not mean reopening the relationship. It does not mean abandoning boundaries. It means reaching a place where another person’s darkness no longer determines the frequency from which you live.
At the end of the episode, I share a song that came through while walking this process myself.
You can also download the accompanying workbook, created to help you explore this process in your own integration.
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